You know that is not possible for them to live for ever
but some how you thought they would.
My Margaret passed away on Memorial Day. My Mother in Law, Ben’s Mom, my babies Grandmother and a wonderful friend to countless others. All of our hearts are broken right now.
The sadness engulfs all other feelings right now. There is no stress, nothing really seems to matter. On things like cleaning out her house, even as full as it is, or dealing with the detail of someone dieing, the only thing I can think is “it is what it is”. I just have to do what needs to be done. I will do what ever I can to make this time even a little bit easier for Ben.
Tue there was a visitation and on Wed we buried Ben’s Mother and Father’s ashes at the Veteran’s Cemetery close to our house. Because it was the burial of both of Ben’s parents we only had Ben, me, the kids, his half sister and her husband attend the burial.
Margaret was a Capt. in the Army and John was a Retired Capt in the Marines. Both received full military honors. Twice we heard taps play, twice there was a gun salute and twice their was a presentation of the American flag to the family. I am sorry but I can not even begin to write about how I felt during this beautiful and emotional tribute to Ben’s parent.
Here is what Ben wrote for the paper:
Margaret Elizabeth Wylie of Springfield, MO passed away in her home May 31st, 2010. She was born in Springfield on December 28th, 1926 to Clyde and Laura “Shug” Theuer and was one of four children-Robin (deceased), Jerrol (deceased), and Dorinda.
After going through School in Springfield and getting her degree from Missouri State Teachers College (now known as Missouri State University) she served her country proudly in the Women’s Army Corps. While serving, she met the love of her life, A Marine Corps Captain named John Wylie, whom she would remain happily married to until his passing in 1999. They were an example of how marriage and love should be for their family and the rest of the world to see. She then went on to a career in Elementary Education and had a lasting and positive effect on many more people. After her husband passed away, she was an even stronger example of strength, kindness, acceptance, giving, and love for all that knew her and loved her. She always had a warm smile and a kind word for anyone she met, not to mention treats and hugs for her two adoring Grandchildren any time she saw them.
She is survived by a sister, Dorinda; a son and loving family: Ben, Kim, Delainey, and Quin; a stepdaughter, Sandy Pollard; and many others who carry her spirit with them. We will all miss you very much. A Memorial Visitation will be held Tuesday, June 8th from 6:00pm to 8:00pm at Gorman-Scharpf Funeral Home-Brentwood Chapel in Springfield, MO. Internment will be at a later date at the Missouri Veterans Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations in her name to either The Kitchen (1630 N. Jefferson, Springfield, MO 65803) of Southwest Missouri Humane Society (3161 W. Norton Road, Springfield, MO 65803) would be appreciated.
We all miss you greatly Margaret. I so wish I had told you more that I loved you. I know you knew but I wish I would of said it more. The only thing that makes our sadness bearable is that we know you are by John’s side. The place where you are happiest. Tell him all about the babies. We know that is why you stay around as long as you did after he died. We are grateful for that. We know how much you missed John we can not thank you enough for the extra time you gave us.
We look forward to seeing your beautiful smile in heaven in someday.
Love you. Miss you. Kim
